Flirting in Marriage

     Sometimes when we are in the thick of life we lack creativity in how liven things up a little and forget to flirt with our spouse. However, flirting can really add positive energy into the relationship. Here are a few ideas that may get your creative juices flowing.  The key is to be spontaneous, fun, and unexpected. 

·      Write a love story of how you met and get it printed and bound.

·        Establish a date night once a week.  It gives you both of you something to look forward to.

·       Cuddle together during a movie

·      Whisper something romantic while in public.

·      Compliment your husband on the way he works hard for the family.

·      Catch your spouse doing something right, and compliment them.

·      Make up fun nicknames for each other or code words for wanting sex that others wouldn’t catch

·      Encourage your wife/husband, notice the little things.

·      Give your spouse your undivided attention, yes, put the cellphone down.

·      Write a poem for your spouse.

·   Plan to get up and just drive and see where the day takes you.  Go wherever you feel like going, discover new territory and explore unknown spots.

·      Give your spouse a massage.

·    Draw your dream house together and talk about all the possibilities or talk about all the possibilities and changes you could do to your current home. 

·  If your spouse is going on a trip, leave little notes throughout their suitcase to find as they go throughout their trip.  If you are the one leaving, places notes all over the house for them to find while you are gone.

·     Go dancing in your driveway, lined with candles, after the children go to sleep.

·     Pretend to be tourists and go see local sites you haven’t gotten around to visiting yet.

·     Be lavish with loving and encouraging words.

·    Put perfume on your bed sheets or some unexpected place for them to discover that makes them think of you.

·     Hug your spouse from behind and kiss the back of their neck.

·     Go for a scenic drive, park, and enjoy the splendor of nature.

·     Take a picnic in the mountains, park, or favorite retreat.

·      Go for a nature walk.

·      Encourage your spouse to share their dreams with you.

·      Take time to think about your spouse, and then share that thought with them.

·      Reminisce about when you first fell in love and what traits you loved the most.

·     Make your spouse laugh.

·      Surprise them with a special gift for no reason.

·      Buy their favorite treat for them.

·     Wink and smile at your spouse from across the room.

·     Compliment your spouse in front of others.

·     Play footsie under the table.

·     Leave a photo of yourself with a cute message in their car.

·     Make a CD of your favorite love songs and put it in their car to discover.

Reference:

Fields, D., & Fields, D. (2000). 100 fun and fabulous ways to flirt with your spouse. Eugene, Oregon: Harvest House.